Networking is already a difficult task for
jobseekers and those merely wanting to stay connected to their network while
already employed.
Finding networking events, asking the right
questions, introducing yourself to someone new, exchanging business cards, and
following up can be downright daunting. Today, I
would like to discuss a way to take some of the pressure out of
networking:
remember it isn’t about you!
We tend to look at networking as that
opportunity to meet, hopefully impress, and ultimately get something from
engaging a new contact.
I am here to say that is too much pressure, and not
the way to look at your interactions, and that instead you should always network
with the intent of helping the other person. By taking
the burden off of yourself to “perform” and as an alternative learning how you
can help others, you will reap better quality contacts, individuals will be more
likely to help you, and you will appreciate or even enjoy networking to a much
greater extent.
When having a conversation with a potential
contact, ask questions that help you discover more about them and what they are
wanting from the interaction. Those questions can
include:
--What brought you here
today?
--Where do you (or did you)
work?
--What do you like most about your current job (or recent
job)?
--What does your job entail? (This is a
much better question then just asking “what do you
do?”)
--Are you working on any interesting
projects?
--How long have you been in your current
field?
Now you can discern important information to
offer some help.
Are they looking for a job – perhaps you can tell
them of a company that is hiring in their field? Are they
new to LinkedIn – perhaps you can tell them about how to use the tool more
effectively in a job search or for overall career management? Are they new
to the area – perhaps you can tell them more about the companies and industries
in your city?
When you help others, they tend to return
the favor, but if they don’t you haven’t lost anything, just move on to another
person. Try this approach and you will find yourself less stressed about
networking in general, and people will very likely offer you some important
referrals and leads that can help your career. To your job
search and career management success!